Wednesday, July 24, 2013

International Teachers and Trailing Spouses

Today started the school-scheduled activities. This morning, the school sent three vans to pick up all the teachers and their families from the hotel to go to the school. We met a bunch of other new teachers whom we had not met before. One of the best things so far is meeting all the new teachers and hearing their stories. These people are some of the most interesting people I've ever met. Hubby and I are downright bores compared to them.

One woman - who will be an I.B. and A.P. chemistry teacher at the high school - is particularly interesting. For the past 20 years, she and her husband, who is a carpenter who builds houses, have lived in the bush country in Alaska. They have lived in a tent with their two little girls (one of whom was a baby at the time) and two dogs in -20° weather! They have built a cabin and grown their own foods! Ultimately, though, they decided to leave Alaska for a while. One reason that drove them out of Alaska is how expensive it was for them to live there. Milk was almost $7/gallon when they left and gas could be as high as $9/gallon sometimes. However, teacher salaries had not kept up with the rising cost of living and had not gone up since the 1980s!

Most of the teachers are teaching internationally for the first time, but one couple is from the U.K. and France and have just come from teaching in China. Another couple just came from Peru and have been living here for the past month because the man was taking a class to get certification to teach. They were traveling throughout Cambodia and just returned to Thailand three days ago.

Except for us, every single American that we've met so far is from the west coast - Washington state, Oregon, and Colorado are the most common. I joke that east-coasters are usually too anal-retentive to do this sort of thing.

One thing I've noticed among some of the more experienced international teachers - they seem to have a sense of self-importance that you don't tend to find with teachers in the U.S. Their attitude actually is more similar to that of many lawyers I know in the U.S. - they think they are God's gift to mankind. My theory on why these teachers have this attitude is that they have become accustomed to and expect the respect and reverence that their profession receives in many parts of the world (as they should). Just in the last three days, we have heard numerous times how much teachers are respected in Thailand, and have gotten advice on how to get good deals for services by mentioning that we are "educators." Just today, one of the teachers - whose wife is the high school assistant principal - told us that on Teacher Appreciation Day (but they don't call it that), all the teachers sit down in one area of the school while their students kneel and bow down in front of them and present them with flowers! He also told us that when parents have concerns, they will go directly to the principal and bypass the teacher, not because they don't feel that talking to the teacher would be ineffective, but because they respect teachers so much they don't want to confront them and question them. So different from the U.S. and a totally different mindset.

We also met several trailing spouses, which is what we call the non-teaching spouses of the teachers. Interestingly enough - though not surprising, I suppose, considering that most teachers are female - I am the only female trailing spouse amongst the group. In the U.S., I'm used to seeing the women be the non-working spouses. Among the group, there is one man who used to teach, but is staying home to care for his infant son. Another was a bank manager in the U.S. I also met an older Canadian man who actually is a consultant for a website IT company based in Canada, but was living in Connecticut. He is starting a branch of his company in Asia, so his wife got a job teaching 7th-grade math here. I jokingly asked him if he is looking for legal counsel for his company because I am a lawyer. Just thought I'd put it out there. He seemed a bit interested and intrigued. :)

As a trailing spouse myself, it has been interesting for me relating to the teachers. Upon hearing that I'm not a teacher, some of them are actually a bit dismissive and even look at me like I'm some kind of freeloader! I'm not used to being in this position. Since graduating from college - with the exception of law school - I've always been the bread winner of the family (though I am definitely NOT career-oriented at all), and my husband had usually followed me. It is different and a bit uncomfortable for me. There also is a sense of uncertainty as my role changes and evolves, and my sense of identity changes. I hate uncertainty.

But there also is a sense of freedom. This is a great time for me to explore and learn more about myself, take on new roles, and pick up new interests and activities. I know I would like to get involved with the school in some capacity. If we decide to do this long-term, I would like to find a job, possibly start on a fourth career. ;) The possibilities are endless!

 




Tuesday, July 23, 2013

The Past 48 Hours

So much has already happened and it's only been two days. Feels like we've already been here at least a week. But let me start from the beginning.... Monday, our first full day here, was a rest day. We started our day by having breakfast in the restaurant downstairs:


There was an eclectic mix of western (bacon, corn flakes, sausage, eggs, omelet, waffles) and eastern foods (fried rice and miso soup, which I love!). Hubby gets breakfast for free while we're here, Son gets it half price at less than $2, and I get to pay full price at around $6. Not that I'm complaining, of course. It's a great price for an all-you-can eat buffet with waffle and omelet bars.

After breakfast, we decided to explore the area outside the hotel a little bit. This is the street outside our hotel, which is the tall building on the right:




The first thing we did on our walk was buy some bottled water at the 7-Eleven, where, apparently, not only can we buy food and alcohol, but we can also pay all our bills! This is also where we noticed that there are A LOT of stray dogs everywhere here, just lying about or wandering around. Kinda reminds me of the Taiwan I remember from 30 years ago.

The 7-Eleven is located on the main road where everything appears to be. The school where Hubby will work is somewhere further down on the same road. Side streets are numbered, followed by the name of the main road, followed by the number of the building. Took me a while to figure that one out.

Traffic wasn't bad at all on Monday because of the holiday. Notice the pedestrian walkway above the street so people aren't taking matters into their own hands when trying to cross the street. I noticed there aren't any actual pedestrian crosswalks like in the U.S.



This appears to be a street market, tucked into the corner of a garage. Would you like some food with your exhaust?



 Buildings we saw as we walked:


Of course, with our six-year-old being the car fanatic that he is, we had to stop to look at cars at a Honda dealership.


He also noticed that the model names are different than those in the U.S. For example, the Honda Civic equivalent is called the Honda City here. The license plates also are different, obviously:



At this point, it started to rain - our first rainfall here! We were already prepared with our raincoats, though, so we decided to keep walking. But it started to pour pretty heavily, so we turned back to the hotel, hung out, and watched the rain, which stopped within 20 minutes or so.



For lunch, we ate again in the hotel restaurant. We haven't been feeling adventurous enough just yet to go out for street food, but the food at the restaurant is really good.

It was then that we encountered our first language barrier. We were trying to find out whether a certain dish includes tree nuts, which our son is allergic to. I swear we had to summon half of the hotel and restaurant staff just to ask that one simple question. But the Thai people are truly the most patient and helpful people I've ever encountered. It actually made me feel bad that I don't know more Thai because the wait staff just stood there looking helpless and apologetic.

At least I got this simple, yet delicious, meal for less than $3!



That afternoon, I got a chance to nap while Hubby and Son went to the pool. The pool is so pretty, but I don't have a picture of it yet. That nap was just glorious!!

I paid the price for my nap this morning, though, when I woke up around 3:30 and couldn't fall back asleep at all. Our little guy also was up by 4:30. After attempting unsuccessfully to go back to sleep, we decided to go downstairs for breakfast around 6:30. Breakfast this morning was even more interesting: there was crab with veggies, eggs with squid, some kind of congee, and of course, miso soup. Crab at six o'clock in the morning is just as good as it is at six o'clock at night!

This morning, we decided to go to the school to meet the finance person there. She is in charge of setting up bank accounts for the teachers AND she also handles their bank accounts for them. Any time we need to pay a bill or transfer money to another account, we just tell her and she does it for us. So she has the info to EVERYONE'S bank accounts. That just seems a little weird to me, so we may try to do our own banking. If we can figure out where the bank is, that is.

We went with two other teachers in taxis to the school. That was when we truly experienced the Traffic of Bangkok. It is truly scary. Lanes and turn signals seem optional. Some taxis don't have seat belts. And they all drive so freaking fast, zipping in and out of lanes. Then there are the scooters and motorcycles that squeeze in between lanes and cars. They are so close that you can reach out of the car window and touch them. My eyes were closed half of the time we were on the road. Here is a picture, but it doesn't give a true sense of the craziness at all.


After about 20 nail-biting minutes, we finally got to school, where we learned that The Bank Lady was out sick today, so we were taken to the principal's office at the high school on a golf cart...because the campus is that extensive.

This is one of the gate entrances to the school. There are eight gates altogether.

Another gate and parking.
The administrative building.


One of two high school buildings.
 I was most impressed by the canteen. There is a high school canteen area, a middle school canteen area, and an elementary school canteen area, though all the kids can eat wherever they want. On the left side, there are a variety of food choices, including sushi, noodles, soups, and sandwiches. Teachers and the older students can choose to buy lunch here. The younger elementary school students have a prescribed menu.


This is one of two outdoor gyms:


The elementary school building:






An all-weather sports field:


One of the two pools at the school. This is the 25-meter pool, which is generally used by the teachers and their families.


The 50-meter pool, used by the swim team:


The elementary school indoor gymnasium with a climbing wall on the far side:


The fitness center for staff and students:


The tennis court:





A multi-purpose building, which has a theater and professional recording studio in it:


Rice paddies behind the school campus:


The principal's wife, who teaches second grade at the elementary school, also gave us a tour of a couple of the housing developments around the school, where many of the teachers live. She took us around in a golf cart, which she uses to get around her neighborhood and to get to school! We're considering getting one ourselves. It was fun zipping around in one of those!

One of the developments is called Perfect Place. It is a gated community within walking/biking distance to the school, has great amenities (including a spa where you can get an hour-long foot massage for $6), and is very family-friendly. Here are a few pics of what's there:

The clubhouse.

The entrance to the community.

A house in Perfect Place.

The lake.

This is the main street to get into Perfect Place. It has everything you can ever need, from hardware stores to salons to grocery stores, vets, and pharmacies. One interesting fact about pharmacies here: you can get anything you want over-the-counter. The only exception is psychotropic drugs.





Yes, we're still riding in the golf cart amidst the crazy traffic.



This afternoon, we called up the realtor who works with the international school teachers and met her at a 7-Eleven to see some houses in Perfect Place. It was during this outing that I hailed my first cab (which you do here by waving your hand downwards) and was mistaken as Thai twice.

However, because there is a 7-Eleven around every corner, she went to the wrong one. After waiting around for half an hour, we luckily ran into the high school assistant principal and elementary school principal on a scooter, who rode down the street to convey the message to the realtor. She showed up a few minutes later and we were on our way to see houses.

She only had three houses in Perfect Place that rented for the same amount as the housing allowance we will receive from the school. Of course, we can always pay more, but we really don't want to. There were also two other families looking at and considering the same houses we were, so competition was pretty fierce. After seeing all three houses, we went back to the first house again, and then decided to rent that one. So tomorrow we return to the realtor's office to sign a lease and move in Thursday!! (I will post pictures of the house another time. When we went to see the house, it was pouring rain. By the time we were done with seeing houses, some of the streets were actually a little flooded and one cab driver refused to drive us back to the hotel!)

So that's what we've been up the past two days. I'm pooped just thinking about all this! I think I will go to bed now, and it's only 8:30.


Sunday, July 21, 2013

We're Here!

After a series of mini freakouts on the way here on my part, we (and all our luggage) made it here safe and sound on Sunday night! Our flights to Tokyo and from Tokyo to Bangkok went very smoothly, and our little man did really well for having slept only about four or five hours off and on within 24 hours. The woman who interviewed and hired my husband also was on both of our flights on her way back here, so that made things a little easier. At the airport in D.C., my parents and a friend came to send us off and help us out. I couldn't help but shed (quite) a few tears after we said goodbye to them. I think the goodbyes hit me much harder than my husband or my son, who actually had been very excited the last few days about our move.

After arriving at the Bangkok airport, after going through customs and exchanging the dollars we brought for baht, we were met at the luggage claims area by several airport staff members to help us with our luggage. When they saw us go up to our luggage with loading carts, they immediately started loading them on and then even helped us wheel them to meet our party. Then they waited around to make sure we didn't need them anymore. This is compared to the airport in D.C., where, when I went to get a large loading cart for our luggage, a man ran over and asked me in broken English if I wanted help. When I said no, he glared at me and growled, "No, you no use," and took the cart away from me. Yeah.

At the airport, we also met three other new teachers and their families. We're from all over the U.S. - us from the D.C. area, one from Alaska, another from Washington state, and another from Oregon. Our luggage was then loaded onto two big vans and brought to the hotel in Bangkok, where the school has put us for the next five days while we find housing and settle in. The hotel actually consists of apartments rather than rooms. Our apartment has one big bedroom, a living room area, dining room, and a small kitchen that is equipped with cooking and eating utensils, cups, plates, pots and pans, and a water boiling machine (we're not supposed to drink the faucet water here). Some teachers actually just settle in here for the year instead of a condo or a house.

Our apartment also has a balcony, where I went this morning to check out our surroundings. The weather here is already quite warm at 7:30 in the morning, though it doesn't seem like it'll be any worse than the heat and humidity that we have been experiencing in the D.C. area in the last week. I heard motorcycle engines, dogs barking, and roosters crowing, which reminded me fondly of home because one of our neighbors had a rooster and another raised chickens. Below our balcony is a house. Seems like the area is what we would call a "mix-use area."

Today, we will have some time to ourselves to explore and rest. Today is a Buddhist holiday, so we've been told the streets will be especially busy and crowded. I'm looking forward to walking around, soaking up our surroundings, eating some authentic Thai food, and interacting with the locals!

Here are some pics from our time here so far:

Dining room in our hotel apartment, with a welcome basket of snacks.

Living room as seen from the dining room.


A bag of potato chips labeled in Thai. A great late-night snack!
Kitchen
The view to the right from our balcony.

The view directly below our balcony.


Friday, July 19, 2013

One More Day: Freak-Out Friday

Tomorrow is The Big Day! By this time tomorrow, we will be on our way to the airport, if not already there. Totally freaking out here. Is it too late to change my mind?! Just kidding. Sort of.

Of course, I realize how lucky I am to actually realize my lifelong dream of living abroad. I am excited thinking about this adventure we're about to embark on, all the new places and things we will get to visit and see, new friends we will make, new foods to try, and the completely different mindset and life we will experience. It is a great opportunity to see and learn about the world. On the other hand, just thinking about all that also gives me heart palpitations. How will we navigate the language barrier? What if we don't make any new friends? What if we don't adjust to our new life? What if we hate it there?!

It is hard to imagine, but a week from today, we will have been in Thailand for almost one week! I'm trying to imagine what the next few days will bring, but nothing comes to mind. It's been a long time since I've traveled abroad, let alone lived abroad, so all this will be as foreign (no pun intended) to me as if I were born and lived in America my entire life. I'm trying to stay flexible and just go with the flow. But if you hear someone screaming online, that would probably be me.

See you later, America! Sa-wat-dee kah, Thailand!



Saturday, July 13, 2013

One Week!

One week from today, from this moment, we will be on a plane on our way to Japan, then to Bangkok, Thailand! Freaking out a little bit and trying to see as many of our friends as possible.

One week ago today, we returned from our three-week long road trip. Here are some pics:

South Carolina


Oldest Oak Tree in Savannah

Sanibel Island, Florida

Fort Myers Beach, Florida





Lighthouse Beach, Sanibel Island, Florida
Oak Alley Plantation, Louisiana

Jackson Square in New Orleans, Louisiana
Along the Mississippi River in New Orleans, Louisiana
San Antonio, Texas
Hot Springs, Arkansas

Lake Ouachita, Arkansas
Great Smoky Mountains National Park, Tennessee
It was an amazingly freeing three weeks on the road, even with a six-year-old. What an wonderful experience!

Monday, June 17, 2013

Vagabonds

So we move out of our house tomorrow, storing what we will leave behind with my parents. We will "camp out" at the house one last night tomorrow night, stay with my parents one night, and embark on a three-week road trip. South Carolina, Georgia, Florida, Louisiana, Texas, Arkansas, and Tennessee. Then back "home" for two weeks, staying again with my parents and various friends.

On July 20, we leave for Thailand. Once there, we will be put up at a hotel for about five days while we find housing. Hopefully, once we find housing, we will stay put for a while. I've always enjoyed a nomadic lifestyle, but after all the packing we've been doing and being "homeless" for a month, I'm sure I will enjoy settling in and getting comfortable. :) 


Saturday, May 18, 2013

It's Really Happening!! Eeeeeek!!!

DEPARTURE: WASHINGTON, DC (DULLES INTL) 20 JUL 12:25
ARRIVAL: TOKYO, JP (NARITA INTL), TERMINAL 1 21 JUL 15:10
RESERVATION CONFIRMED, ECONOMY (V) DURATION: 13:45
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MEAL: LUNCH
NON STOP WASHINGTON, DC TO TOKYO

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DEPARTURE: TOKYO, JP (NARITA INTL), TERMINAL 1 21 JUL 18:30
ARRIVAL: BANGKOK, TH (SUVARNABHUMI INTL) 21 JUL 23:15
RESERVATION CONFIRMED, ECONOMY (V) DURATION: 06:45
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MEAL: DINNER
NON STOP TOKYO TO BANGKOK